No Question About It

•June 5, 2009 • 1 Comment

A college friend came to see me a few weeks ago.  He was celebrating 25 years of marriage by taking his wife on an Alaskan cruise.  As part of the celebration he didn’t tell his wife that Nette and I were to pick them up from the airport and take them to our house to spend the night.  We hadn’t seen them in almost 15 years.  When they came down the walkway through security the wife looked right at me and instantly recognized us.  How could that happen?  We laughed and hugged and laughed some more.  They have aged well.  A little grey here and there, a pound or two more than when they were in their early twenties.  We laughed and bragged about our children.  

The next morning  we took them to Patty’s Eggnest for breakfast before we drove them to Vancouver, BC to board their ship.

One thing about growing older is that you have wonderful memories.  When I was the pastor of my first church, this friend and his wife came and joined our little country church.  I knew back then that he would be very successful at whatever he decided to do, but at time he was working as a recruiter for our Alma Mater.  I asked him to be in charge of opening our worship services with a greeting and sharing upcoming announcements.  Jokingly we came up with the title, “Minister of Announcements.”  He went on to get a couple of graduate degrees and is now in his 10th year as pastor of a large church in Oklahoma City.  

But when they were with us this last week he wasn’t the pastor of a significant church, they were just our very precious friends.  I now pastor a small church in a very secular culture.  In fact, it is the same size as that little country church during my college years.  My friend is pastoring a large church in the middle of the Bible belt. 

We drove the 4 hour trip across the Canadian border and dropped them off at the port in Vancouver, hugged them, took some pictures and then Nette and I drove away.  We sighed and said almost in unison, “That was so much fun seeing them again.”  

I reflected on our conversations over the course of our time together.  He asked me a few questions about the worship style of our church, and other minor things. But there was one question that was conspicuous because of it’s absence.  

My eyes burned with a tear when it dawned on me what he didn’t ask.  He broke the unwritten rule between preachers.  All of us do it.  It is ingrained.  Whenever preachers get together they always ask the same question.  Oh, they are coy about it sometimes.  They demur.  But sooner or later the question get’s asked.

But not my friend.  Maybe he didn’t ask it because he didn’t want to put me on the spot, embarrass me for where I was and where I had boasted I would one day be when we were younger men.  Perhaps he didn’t ask because my church didn’t matter to him. (not a chance)  Maybe he didn’t ask because it never occurred to him. Or maybe he didn’t ask me the question because he is a large-souled man who does not measure his place in the world by comparing himself against where his friends are.

I smiled and let the tear well up.  I mentioned to my wife THE question that he didn’t ask.  She smiled and said he is too big of a man to ask such a small question.  I agreed and then decided to text him while we drove away and thank him for not asking.  

Sometimes the best answers come from questions that are never asked.

A college friend came to see me a few weeks ago.  He was celebrating 25 years of marriage by taking his wife on an Alaskan cruise.  As part of the celebration he didn’t tell his wife Nette and I were to pick them up from the airport and take them to our house to spend the night.  We hadn’t seen them in almost 15 years.  When they came down the walkway through security the wife looked right at me and instantly recognized us.  How could that happen?  We laughed and hugged and laughed some more.  
The next morning  we took them to Patty’s Eggnest for breakfast before we drove them to Vancouver, BC to board their ship.
One thing about growing old is that you have wonderful memories.  When I was the pastor of my first church, this friend and his wife came and joined our little country church.  I knew back then that he would be very successful at whatever he decided to do, but at time he was working as a recruiter for our Alma Mater.  I asked him to be in charge of opening our worship services with a greeting and sharing upcoming announcements.  Jokingly we came up with the title, “Minister of Announcements.”  
He went on to get a couple of graduate degrees and is now in his 10th year as pastor of a large church in Oklahoma City.  
But when they were with us this last week, they were just our very precious friends.  I now pastor a small church in a very secular culture.  In fact, it is the same size as that little country church during my college years.  My friend is pastoring a large church in the middle of the Bible belt. 
 
They have aged well.  A little grey here and there, a pound or two more than when they were in their early twenties.  We laughed and bragged about our children.  
We drove the 4 hour trip across the Canadian border and dropped them off at the port in Vancouver, hugged them, took some pictures and then Nette and I drove away.  We sighed and said almost in unison, “That was so much fun seeing them again.”  
I reflected on our conversations over the course of our time together.  He asked me a few questions about our worship style, and other minor things about my church.  But there was one question I kept waiting for him to ask that never came.  But he never asked it.
My eyes burned with a tear when it dawned on me what he didn’t ask.  He broke the unwritten rule between preachers.  All of us do it.  It is ingrained.  It is the way we know where we are on the totem pole.  Whenever preachers get together they always ask the same question.  Oh, they are coy about it sometimes.  They demur.  But sooner or later the question get’s asked.
But not my friend.  Maybe he didn’t ask it because he didn’t want to put me on the spot, embarrass me for where I was and where I had boasted I would one day be when we were younger men.  Perhaps he didn’t ask because my church didn’t matter to him.  Maybe he didn’t ask because it never occurred to him.  Or maybe he didn’t ask me the question because he is a large-souled man who does not measure his place in the world by comparing himself against where his friends are.
I smiled and let the tear well up.  I mentioned to my wife the question that he didn’t ask.  She smiled and said he is too big of a man to ask such a small question.  I agreed and then decided to text him while we drove away and thank him for not asking.  
Sometimes the best answers come from questions that are never asked.

Lost and Found

•April 1, 2009 • 1 Comment

In Luke 15 Jesus tells three interrelated stories to prove a point about who God favors. A shepherd went out looking for a sheep until he found it.   A woman went all out looking for a coin until she found it.  A father while he didn’t go out to the far country looking for his son…the son needed to learn some lessons on his own…the father actively looked for him every day until he came home.

When you value something and it winds up missing you go after it right?

Several years ago Lynette had done a load of laundry and had several more to go. There were clothes strewn all over the laundry room floor. Right in the middle of the floor was a drain.

Our bedroom was next door to the laundry room and I was in it trying to do some reading. Suddenly I heard a shriek as if someone was being assaulted coming from the laundry room. I ran into the room and my wife had her eyes wide open, horror etched on her face and her left hand up. I said, “Hey, I am trying to read in here!” She pointed to her hand and said, “It’s gone!” I looked. Her hand was still there. Her fingers were still there. Her ring was still there. What is gone? I asked. She said, “My diamond!”

She started to cry while she ran her hand around the tub of the washer. Frantically, she started looking everywhere tossing the piles of clothes aside as if they were guilty of this thievery. I just stared at her. She snapped at me, “Why aren’t you helping me? I said, “What makes you think you are going to find it if you have been poking your hand down in a churning washing machine? All of that water, soap and anything the size of that diamond is washed away. It is gone.” I wasn’t too upset about it. (I knew how much I had paid for it.)

But she was beside herself. So we looked. She tried to get me to undo some plumbing, but I balked and distracted her by looking intently down that drain into Mordor. Nothing.  After what seemed like an hour of searching I decided the practical thing to do was to get some sleep. So I went back to bed and I talked her into going to bed too.  I tried to comfort her, but she cried and cried.  I remember thinking that I don’t really understand my wife very well.

Later she told me that while in bed she whispered, “God, I know it is just a little thing. But could you help me find my diamond?”

Directly, she got up and went back to look again. I was almost asleep when I heard screaming and shouting. I bolted out of bed again thinking she had lost something else. But she came running into the bedroom, grabbed me hugged me and kissed me and said. “I found it!” Right in the middle of the laundry room floor on top of a pair of blue jeans laid her diamond.

Oh, the power of prayer, passion and persistence!

If you are a Christ follower it is because someone went looking for you.

Every Christian I know can look back on their life and see how someone searched them out.  God put a Christian in their department at work.  They stumbled over a book that made the claims of Christ seem reasonable.  They were invited to worship service and everything became clear. 

There is a diamond in your world just waiting to be found this Easter. 

Will you pray and look?

A White Stone and a New Name

•March 18, 2009 • 3 Comments

 

Forrest Gump is the life story of a physically and mentally challenged man (Tom Hanks), who accomplishes the incredible with his simple reasoning and persistence.

 

In one scene, Forrest and his childhood friend Jenny are walking down an old gravel road shaded by hardwood trees. Jenny carries her sandals, and the walk seems pleasant until they happen upon an abandoned, weather-worn house. The sight is horrifying to Jenny. It is her childhood home, a place where Jenny had been abused by her alcoholic father.

 

Forrest sees the pain etched on Jenny’s face as she walks ahead of him toward the old abandoned house. Suddenly, Jenny throws her shoes at the house and then begins picking up rocks and furiously throwing them towards the house. Years of pent up anger are unleashed. When nothing is left to throw, Jenny falls to the ground crying. Forrest sits down in the muddy driveway beside her, and says, “Sometimes, I guess, there just aren’t enough rocks”.

 

I am not telling you something new when I say that there are probably some folks reading this who would like to throw a few rocks.

 

Maybe not at the house that they grew up in and felt pain, maybe they would like to throw a few rocks at the cancer they just found out about.  Maybe a rock at a dissolving relationship that no one knows about.  Maybe you would throw the rock at depression or at the pain that can’t even be named. 

 

Let Jesus encourage you with these words. 

 

“… To him who overcomes…I will give him a white stone, and on the stone a new name written which no one knows except him who recieves it.”  Rev. 2:17

 

In the Bible, names are very important.  It has to do with a person’s identity.  And if they get a new name, it meant they were going to get a new identity, or a new destiny.

 

Abram became Abraham

Jacob became Israel

Simon became Peter

 

 

Jesus looked at Simon and said, “Everybody else calls you Simon; Hot and cold.  But that is not what I see.  I see a Rock!  I think I will call you Rocky.  That is your new name.”

 

A new name is coming your way.  Not a new label but a new identity; a new character.  It’s about you becoming a creature of unimaginable splendor.

 

But you’re not going to just get a new name…a new secret name.  This is about intimacy with God.  In close relationships, people often give each other private names.  It’s a way of saying, “I have a special connection with you.  You are special.”

 

New names can mark your life and go to deep places in your soul. 

 

About five years ago I took my oldest boys backpacking in the mountains that I grew up in south central Colorado.  We went to some very remote alpine lakes named Deadman.  In order to get there it takes two days of intense hiking and climbing with full packs of about 60 pounds over a 13,200’ foot pass.  Once you get above tree line there are no trails.  The air is remarkably thin.  We cross a narrow ridge no wider than your kitchen table with a 1,000’ steep drop on one side and a 1,500’ foot drop on the other.  From the look of the unweathered rock lightning likes to strike this narrow part of the ridge so you need to time your passage over it to avoid the afternoon thunderstorms.

 

The ground is so steep in places that you can reach out your hand perpendicular to your body and touch the ground that you will be walking on in a few minutes.  On our descent I have often gotten blisters on the tops of my toes from the friction inside my boots.

 

But when you get to these lakes they are breath taking.  Only about 6-8 parties make the trip to the lakes per year, therefore the cutthroat trout fishing is some of the best in Colorado.  It is truly a pristine wilderness experience.  It is a painful and invigorating place.

 

I first went there when I was about 13 years old with my dad and brother.  And since that time I have gone back about some 20 times and five years ago I took my oldest boys, one of their friends Ian, and my dad.  At that time he was 65 years old. 

 

We experienced a great week of fishing and exploring.  We decided to come out a different way than we went in because my Dad’s knee was weak and hurting.  It was a route we had only heard about but never tried.  All went well until we came across a cliff wall about 75 feet high.  I searched and searched for an easy way down.  There was no easy way down.  I rarely get anxious in the mountains, but with the responsibility of these boys and my Dad, I admit I was nervous.

 

Finally, I found a cut in the rock that had been filled with snow.  I decided to kick step holes in the steep snow wall.  I descended with my pack and left it at the bottom.  Then I went back up the 75 foot climb, careful to position my feet in the same holes I had made coming down.  I put one of my boy’s backs on my back and then kicked stepped under him, helping him put his boots in the exact step.  Step by step by step all the way down. Then at the bottom put the pack down and climb up and get another pack for another boy.  First Cole, Clint, and then Ian all successfully ferried down the snow ribbon.

 

The only person left was my father who had watched me carry the boys’ packs down one by one.  I sat down beside him at the top of that cliff.  We didn’t say a word to each other.  We just sat there.   Then he said, “You are really good with those boys.  You made them feel safe in a dangerous situation” I said thanks.   Then we just sat there staring at Sand Creek Valley stretching out before us as if we had no place to go.  The boys were below us laughing and enjoying the last rush of adrenalin that was coursing through their veins.

 

Finally I asked, “How is your knee?” 

 

He barked, “Not good.”

 

Silence; Long silence.

 

“How do you want to do this?” I asked.

 

“I want to take my own pack down” he said.

 

Silence.

 

“But you better take it” he said.

 

“Okay” I said. 

 

I got up put his pack on (which was heavier than mine) and headed towards the snow bank.  I put one foot on the snow and suddenly my dad grabbed me by my sleeve, turned me to face him, looked me in the eye and said, “Son, you are my hero”.

 

I can’t tell you what those words did for me.  All I could do was look at him, look down and nod my head.

 

We slowly descended the cliff and have never spoken about it since.

 

I never imagined in my wildest dreams that my dad would ever call me ‘hero’.  Those words penetrated places deep inside my soul.  As incredible as that moment was…it will fade into a distant memory the day Jesus hands me my white stone and calls me by my special name.

 

Here is what Jesus is saying, “One day you will stand before the One who made you; the One who thought you up.  And He is going to hand you a white rock, and on that rock will be the single word you have wanted to hear and be for your whole life.

 

It might be “Courage” or, “Beauty” or, “Faithful” or, “Beloved”.  That’s your name.  That is who you are.  That which you’ve most longed to be but never came close to because sin has messed you up so much in this world will be realized beyond your wildest dreams.  You will be a creature of unimaginable splendor and this is your destiny!

 

Jesus will say, “This is just between you and me.  It’s our little secret.  That’s how close we are.  That’s how special you are to me.”

 

You will experience intimacy with God that no one else will share.  Not Billy Graham, Mother Teresa, Chuck Swindoll, not the Apostle John himself.  They will have their own name—but not yours.  You will have the intimacy, belonging and love that you have craved your whole life. You will be made whole by love. 

 

Some rocks are made for throwing; some rocks mean something altogether different.  So you just hang on.  You just put one foot in front of the other.  You will be home soon enough.

  

Stained Pages

•March 6, 2009 • 5 Comments

 

My first Bible as a preacher is a brown leather New King James Version.  It is cracked, wrinkled and worn thin in places.  I let it fall open where it would and it opened to Nehemiah.  There were underlined places, checks, stars and one word comments.  Words like, “opportunity” beside chapter 2:4 and “Because of Obedience” beside 8:17c.

Here are some underlined verses:

“The strength of the labors is failing, and there is so much rubbish that we are not able to build the wall.”  4:10

“Do not be afraid of them.  Remember the Lord, great and awesome, and fight…”  4:14

“Our God will fight for us.”  4:20

When I held this precious old bible in my hands open to this Old Testament book, I ran my fingers over the pages.  I traced the underlined words like I might brush a strand of hair away from my wife’s face.  I rubbed the corners of the sacred text like I did my sleeping grandson’s dimpled hands as he slept on my lap last Saturday. 

What struck me the most—more than the underlined verses, more than the comments in the margins—was the brown stains from the oils left by my thumbs and the small of traces of dirt on the edges of the pages.  When I saw those stains—my eyes burned with tears.  I remembered the Wednesday nights of preaching verse-by-verse though this Old Testament book to a little country church in Shawnee, Oklahoma twenty five years ago this month.

I turned to Ephesians and there were the stains again—and I remembered teaching through that book on Sunday mornings.  Then I found the same stains in 1 Corinthians, the Gospel of John, Romans, 1 John, and 1 Peter—and I remembered the way it used to be, when I preached the Bible. 

Now I have to use a new version of the bible because today’s Church goers have calloused ears to listening to the poetry of the King James Version.  I have to preach in short topical “high impact series” with catchy titles to attract a crowd.  Sermon Series like “Desperate Sex Lives” and “Rock God” and “Text: U asked 4 it!”  These scintillating series can only be about 4 weeks long or the folks lose interest.  Because attracting a crowd is the only measure of success.  Apparently size matters.

But I long for the day when I just preached the Bible: line upon line and precept upon precept.

Those stained pages meant I spent time in those precious books of God’s Word before God’s people who had an open Bible on their laps.  Today folks don’t bring their bibles to church.  They don’t need to.  We provide the verses on PowerPoint’s or print them on a handout.  We entertain.  We are cute.  We go for the cheap laugh.  We dress in blue jeans, flip flops and untucked shirts.

Where are the stained pages?

I heard a complaint from an attendee about my preaching recently:  “If I wanted a Bible Study I would host one in my home.  I don’t come to church for that.” 

At first that comment hurt my feelings.  (All preachers like to be heard and admired.  Those who say differently —lie about other stuff.)  But as I reflected on that, I think I am getting to the place where I don’t care.  I want stained pages again.

I want the sacred text I hold in my hands to come alive and find lodging in the hearts of the folks that dare to come to church and bring their Bibles.  May there be underlined verses again, in marked up margins; in Bibles that look as worn as grandma’s hands. 

Spurgeon said, “The Bible that is falling apart usually belongs to someone who isn’t.”

Then I go back to my old Bible and older friend, Nehemiah and read these underlined words:  “Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”  8:10

  

The Myth of 180 Degree Change

•February 15, 2009 • 6 Comments

The following is stuff that I meant to say in a recent sermon…but ran out of time…

No matter how much you grow spiritually, you will always be you. An acorn does not grow up to be a rose bush, just an oak. It might be a healthy oak, it might be a sickly oak, but it will never grow out of its oakness. You will never grow out of your youness.

I read recently about the myth of 180-degree change, that if I really grow spiritually I would become a completely different person, different personality, and different temperament, all that kind of stuff. It doesn’t happen. Those of you who are raging extraverts and you know who you are, don’t you get tired of putting your foot in your mouth all the time, of saying things you regret. Don’t you wish that you could become more like those of us who are introverted? More wise, more calm, more restrained, more prudent. It’s never going to happen. It’s too bad because we all wish that you would become more like that.

Here’s the deal, some things about you will never change no matter how much you grow spiritually. Your raw material, your basic wiring, your metabolism, your DNA, they’ll just get redirected. Before the Apostle Paul met Jesus, he was a brilliant, passionate, zealous man who persecuted people. After he met Jesus, guess what? He was a brilliant, passionate, zealous man who sacrificed himself in order to serve people and God.

Before Chuck Colson met Jesus, he was a man marked by drive and high levels of motivation and ambition, and he used it to gain power. After he met Jesus, guess what? He was man marked by high levels of drive, motivation and ambition, and now he used it to serve Jesus by helping prisoners all around the world.

You will always be you. That means the stuff that you wrestle with is what you will always wrestle with. When I look at my journal from 10 years ago I noticed three words kept describing the stuff that I wrestled with, and I realized that those three words…ten years later…are still my words, still my struggle. At first that was kind of depressing until the realization came, you’ve got words, I’ve got words, as long as I’m alive that will be the stuff I wrestle with. You wrestle with sin patterns that are kind of unique to you.

Now here’s the good news: What happens when you grow, what happens when you flourish is you become more you. You see, God created you, God created everything. This part’s real clear in Genesis, everything God made, it said God would look at it and God saw that it was good, and that includes you.

Redemption is always the redemption of creation. God doesn’t say, “Well, this is the stuff I created, but now I’m going to get rid of it.” In fact in Romans 8, it talks about how creation itself is groaning for the revelation of the sons and the daughters of God so that creation itself can be set free from its frustration because God intends to redeem what He created.

That means He intends to redeem, to liberate, to set free you, and you as you grow spiritually will become more you. You just won’t get holier, you will get youier. Sounds like Dr. Seuss, doesn’t it? You’re going to become more and more the you that He thought up. That’s a real good thing, and part of what you need to do to grow spiritually is embrace that God made you to be you.

One of the great barriers to our growing spiritually is we are not grateful that there is someone like me on this planet, someone like you. I know we’re all junked up. I know there is sin, but see we are the creation of God and redemption is the redemption of creation, and God’s plan is just for you to get youier and youier and youier throughout all eternity, and that’s a good thing.